Tough Times: As baby Becomes Big Brother

My two year old(Matt) is happy to have a baby around.  Smiling, waving, and giving lots of kisses.  Telling us with his interactions with the baby that he loves him.  But he has started throughing unreal temper tantrums!!  Please help.  Let me give an example of his behavior.  This morning I came to give him and his older brother oatmeal.  He seemed happy and came to sit down.  He had some trouble getting past his older brother(Sam) who was trying to block his way.  Nevertheless he made it successfully and was sitting quietly by my side. Then when I went to offer him oatmeal he angrily yelled "NO!!!"  So I deceded to leave him alone and just feed Sam.  I think Matt got upset when I started giving the food only to Sam, but he wouldn't except it...what could I do?  Now is when the temper tantrum started.  He started growly and trying to hurt himself, such as pinching his arm, hitting his leg, or pulling his hair.  I asked him to calm down and to be careful or he would hurt himself.  The anger only increased.  My husband eventually grabbed him and held him trying to calm him down.  He talked and tickled and talked and tried reasoning with him, but would not let him go unless he calmed down.  Matt cried, screamed, hit, and tried to hurt himself.  After trying to control his behavior, we eventually had to just leave him in his bed to calm himself down.  He stopped crying almost immediately, but he was still upset when we got him out 10 mins later.  I know that kids will do what they want when it comes to reacting and throwing fits,  but what should I do? I figure next time I will try the time out in bed first since it worked so well.  I really don't like to give kids attention when they are behaving badly, espcially since it makes me want to behave badly.

Adding another to the group.

I am currently waiting for my third son(Aaron) to arrive.  I have been stressing a lot about not wanting to wait any longer for him to arrive. Everyday seems like an eternity, anytime I see someone I know they make comments such as: wow, your still here? or what no baby yet? or when is your due date again?  I am currently 9 days over due and experienceing contractions on and off, but not consistantly.  I was ten days over due with my second, and he turned out fine. I am the one who can't handle the nerves and the waiting. 

Now that it is so close to his arrival I thought my cravings would stop, but they have only increased.  I have dreams about foods such as: donuts, pizza, carniasada fries, etc.  And during the day I wish for foods that are not in my cupboards.  I try to distract myself from food and the thought of waiting by reading books, and playing with my kids.  I have talked of the baby often with my soon to be four year old(Sam).  He seems to understand that there is a new baby, friend, and brother coming soon.  He has started coming up to my belly and giving it hugs and telling the baby to come out and play.  It always brings a smile to my face when he mentions something about "baby Aaron".  I am so glad to have my two boys, and the third to come.  Seeing them restle, copycat eachother, and play together in general gives me hope for the future and brings great joy to my heart.  I am the mother of two very loving boys who will be wonderful big brothers to their new brother.  Please baby Aaron come soon.